"Big" Sex :
The Role of Sex in "Sex and the City"
Throughout the television show "Sex and the City" we watch Miss Carrie Bradshaw stumble her way through New York City and love. The one man that has continually had a constant role in her life is Mr. Big. The relationship between Carrie and Big has many different levels and goes through many changes, but sex plays an important role throughout the entire relationship.
Carrie and Big's relationship uses two sexual attitudes. While they are in their on again off again relationship they have a very relational sexual attitude which means they are having sex to "express intimacy" (21). This sexual attitude is very prominent when they are not only in their relationships but when they are missing each other and find themselves lonely.
This can be see when Carrie finds herself lonely and longing for love in Paris. Mr. Big suddenly shows up and sex at that point is because a loving relational bond. In contrast, Big and Carrie also have recreational sex. This when you have sex because sex is fun and feels good.
These moments are Carrie and Big's initial sexual encounters within the series. Sex is an important role in their relationship and something that they express often. They can be characterized as a "rapid-involvement couple" and experience, "high levels of physical arousal" (21). Sex happens fast and often in their many relationships.
Breaking up is something that is very common in Carrie and Big's relationship, and something they experience often. Breaking up also has impact on Carrie and Big's sex life. Breaking up in relationships is okay, because it helps you understand what you want differently in your future relationships. What do you want differently and what was the problem in the previous relationship? These are questions that come from breaking up and helps Carrie gain knowledge for future relationships. But in Carrie's situation she does not find these changes in another man but in Big.
Overall, Carrie and Big have a normal sexual relationship in a very unconventional emotional relationship. Their sex life is an important factor in their relationship, as it is for most couples. Sex is an essential part of relationships and is important in long lasting relationships. Just like Carries' relationship with her shoes, there is a long term bond and connection and one that needs time and attention. No matter how the styles change or the price of the pair, she will get what she wants and make it work. Carrie knows she wants Big and that relationship that comes with him and will do what she has to for them to be her new perfect pair.
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